Your post HITS HOME FOR ME too. Your illustration of your evening with your husband is almost every night at my house. I get outraged when he will not engage, but our situation has escalated to another level I feel. I call him names & I have gotten him to get mad. Like you explained your husband doesn't get angry, well mine didn't. But I pryed & pryed & now he does get mad too.

I don't know how to ignore the petty things I get aggravated by. In the morning when I'm getting ready for work between 6 & 7am he's still sleeping cause he doesn't have to go to work till later. I go in the room while he's sleeping to tell him he left the door unlocked, left something out, forgot to do ____
I can't get over it. I can't just let it go, I let it dwell in my mind till I'm angry & I go unleash. The poor man can do no right. Were going to go to marriage counseling but its going to be very stressful. The only time we can go is after work & we have a 15 month old. Its so difficult but I try to hold it together & learn what I can where I can. I am in so much therapy. Maybe that is the link that's keeping us together.

Now I'll go read the rest of the replies I was too inpatient to read the first time. So eager to post my response. I have no patience.

Great post