My husband is defiantely co-dependant. Along with the things you mentioned he has always been with a woman. I'm his third wife, but he met me while with one woman, moved in with another woman just to be closer to me, and then with me.

You mention that he always insists when you're upset it's his fault. My husband does the same thing, but when he's upset it's never me - kind of sweet but also a little annoying at times.

One thing I started was to point out how self-centered that sounded to me. Usually when he implies he must have done something wrong, I will say something like "Yes, since the universe revolves around you, it must have been something you did." I also remind him that I have a professional life that he has no part of. I try to keep the two separate, but for me it's easier to keep family out of work than work out of family.

I've only been doing that for a year or so, and there have been signs of improvement. He asks how my day was more often and lets me talk about what I can when things bother me. I've had to remind him the universe revolves around him less and less as time goes on. Don't know if it's really working, but at least he isn't taking things as personal.

Just something that is kind of working for me.