You know, i'm thinking the exact same thing. If he was there's nothing wrong with it we all need a friend to vent to sometimes. But when that friend starts harrasing then my husband should have a talk with him about respect. Cause yesterday when he sent the IM, I told my husband about it. So it's not like he don't know. I have confided in my sister alot when my husband and I were arguing or I had a problem with him and not once did she treat him like that. I don't know. If all these problems keep up, I'm gong to have to leave. I have put up with his family for 9 years now. They used to tell him to leave me and his mom even lied on me and told him I cheated on him with the said best friend. And his brother is the worst. I'm so glad he's in the pen cause he used to call my husband and tell him what a WH word and a "B" I was. One time I got tired of all his family drama and told him I was done and his mom said "Don't you let that "B" take the f-ing baby with her he's YOUR son" Then his grandmother used to call my grandmother and tell her I never cleaned and my house looked like a bunch of "N" words lived in it. Yeah she said that. They have been doing this since the 3rd day me and my husband we're dating. I have never been so insulted and fought with as I have in the past 9 years. In my hometown, everyone likes me. They know me. They know what kind of person I am. Now I have to deal with his best friend harrassing me on Facebook. I already deleted him and if he continues to be harrasing I'm going to block him. Or something.