Sorry to hear about this, but have you seen a therapist about this at all? If not, it would probably be in your best interest, and don't feel ashamed or embarressed, you were violated, it is these people that should be ashamed of themselves.
Please seek professional help, I am sure you would benefit greatly, I am also sure in time with help you may be able to become "one" and lose the multiple identities. I wish you lots of luck with this journey.
Please take care now.

DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON