I sat one night at a speech at AA, when a woman said, "I've had a lot of good sex with alcoholics." I was there at the time with my alcoholic male friend, with whom I was having the best sex of my life. Lots of time has passed, and I've just posted here in the Relationships threads about learning that he died. I got away from him. I'm going to venture forward and make the judgment that I feel you have no future with this man if he is an active alcoholic. It could be that you just need to be alone, and let go of this libido propulsion. There are worse things than abstinence.