I want to share that facing my own flaws has been very difficult, but also rewarding because I feel like I am in more control of my emotions and actions now. I have ADHD...untreated...and probably borderline as well. I drove my wife away from me by being all over the map emotionally. She never knew what to expect from me, and I felt like no one understood me. Now she is gone for good for 9 years and I still feel sad about missing the opportunity to learn about my personality issues during our early years together. I would have done something about it....gotten help or something. I have caused a lot of hurt and pain in my marriage due to rash, impulsive behaviors that might have been prevented with treatment.