Hi. Ok here's my problem/story. My husband and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. He's been very physically abusive to me occasionally over that time period. Like every three months. Anyways, we're now having a "fresh start".

The reason I mention this, is because since I've been abused, I don't even know what's normal anymore. I need advice from anyone who knows what normal should be, I guess you could say? I don't want to put this in the abuse section, because it's a sexual problem. I hope that's ok? So here's the problem: He keeps "fingering" me and has our whole relationship, despite me telling him I don't like it! I'm not talking about foreplay here. He touches my private area a lot. After we agreed to a "fresh start" just last week, this was one of the issues I brought up. That I just don't like it.

So tonight he gets home. I'm on my hands and knees looking for our daughter's lovey so she can go to sleep. He comes up behind me, and slides his finger across my private area! I was pissed. We had just talked about this last week. So I got up and told him I don't like that. He started screaming at me, telling me I'm a prude and am I a nun.

Seriously now. Am I really a prude? We've done everything in bed together, including letting him go in the "other way". So how am I a prude? I just don't like being touched down there when I'm busy around the house, or every time I bend over, or him holding me there when we're watching TV. I've told him this so many times. I thought you were supposed to be honest about what you don't like sexually? I've been telling him for 2 1/2 years now-our entire relationship. Any advice??? Him telling me I'm a prude just really got to me, and I'm wondering now if I am and don't know it? I don't know!