Ok, I know weve never really talked much on here. But I wanted to give my opinion. Little background. my dad was possessive of my mom. wouldnt even let her visit her MOM...he emotionally abused her constantly..I turned out this way. with my HUSBAND. Im abusive in other ways. emotionally.....I dont let him go out. I watch his cell phone bill. I dont let him do very much without a long winded argument. I never let him have any of his own paycheck. Last month He gave me an ultimatum after 17 years. to either end the abuse or leave. I am in Therapy to help myself change. I understand why I do this now. and I am more conscious of how I handle things. I try to back away on certain things. Let him take charge.

I think everybody can change. Im trying because I love my husband. I just wish he would have had the guts to tell me sooner than 17 years.

Colleen