Thanks Rhi and Byz. Yeah when husband came home yesterday, I asked him if he had been confiding in his friend about our problems. He said no that it was hard to talk to his friend cause he's got himself messed up on pills. Well I showed him what his friend wrote. It made him mad so he called the friend. Friend tried to say he was tired of seeing my husband get walked over and was fed up because I did'nt work. My husband reminded him the he has always lived off of some poor woman and no i did'nt walk over him and he needed to keep his opinions to himself and that i said he was'nt allowed around me again. Of couse his friend started blaming me and saying I control my husband. Yeah he got mad so my husband just hung up on him. i guess he'l grow up or he won't I don't care. To be honest if he's messed up on pills, I don't want to be around him anyway.