As you know 50guy I respect you - but I hope you won't mind me being honest. Unfortunately the internet makes these kind of connections all too easy. I'm a little old fashioned - where I don't think it's right to talk about a spouse, unless it's in a good way. She should be talking to a counselor and I can't help but think she had other motives. Usually this kind of emotional bonding leads to physical cheating.

I don't blame your wife for not liking this and the fact she actually went to meet her face to face - makes me think she was very ticked. I also wonder, what were you getting out of this arrangement? Would you be okay if your DW communicated about your marriage problems with another man? I hope you don't mind my straight forward questions?

I think you should end this as quickly as possible by telling her the truth or changing your email. If she's over bearing I would be concerned she might make a pest of herself. I wouldn't be worried about hurting her feelings - or else your wife's feelings will get hurt. I hope my straight forward opinion doesn't hurt your feelings.