Why do you come "unglued?" Really, sit with those feelings when you feel them coming on. Ask yourself, is he doing something wrong or is it me? I bet your husband could be blind and you would still find fault with him.

Like the other poster said and I mean this in a kind way "It's your problem." You need to figure out why you are so insecure. Were you cheated on in the past? low self-esteem?

If you can figure out what is driving these emotions, you can then control them rather than let them control you. When you feel this why not say to your husband " I am feeling triggered by these women, I don't know why, but I do." I think this way you will not blow up at him, it will put you in control and he can offer reassurance.

I hope you can find the help you need.