I don't know if this discussion is worth the pain it creates for some. But maybe people think of evil when they perceive that some others seem actually to enjoy hurting people. And I do not dispute that some people really do seem to enjoy it. I have that impression about my own mother at times. I hated and feared her for that, and how she seemed to be able to hide it from others outside the family and put the blame on us. I no longer am as disturbed by that behavior as I used to be; I no longer take it into myself. I see her as needing to punish someone, and rejoicing when she thought she did. I think now her target must have been someone in her early life, and not us. She missed her mark. She wanted to revenge herself on someone else, but did not realize we were not the ones who had hurt her. We got in the way.

I am no longer so impressed by her as I once was! She was she, and I am I. I no longer need to worry so much about what she did.

I think everyone is entitled to be as angry as they need to be about the hurts they have suffered. Fully experiencing your real emotions, I think, and realizing they are inside of you, as all emotions are, makes it easier then to see what is outside, not inside, to analyze it, to see how to make an outcome better when you run across it again in the world outside yourself.