I no longer feel obligated to claim that anything is an evil act. If a person does X, then they do X. If it has consequences Y, then it has consequences Y. We can describe those in as much detail as we need to, without trying to hide or avoid what the person did. AND I may feel Z about it. Z may equal angry, extremely hostile, hostile and afraid at the same time. Feelings are honorable. Feel them. They are yours.

(I keep thinking of things I need to add.)

If a person does a lot of damage, then we need to try to do something about that, to the extent that we can. Figuring out what to do is easier if we can think more clearly about it. We need to try to see what things that we can do that will make the situation better. We need to make ourselves safe, if possible. Think, people, think!