First off, if you are being argumentative......STOP IT!!!! I can tell you from 33 years with my husband who was that way.....I finally got fed up with the whole thing & left 3 years ago. If I said the sky was blue....he would say...no it's not because it's night time & it's black.....he would always have to show what a smart jerk he was. The problem was that he would argue about things that he was completely wrong about...just like my father & my grandfather did. It turned me off on him from the beginning which was part of the downfall of our marriage because I realized there were too many things I didn't like about him to ever love him. Don't be that part of the relationship.

I agree, bitterness can rub off on us by the people we are around....as if her family might have been that way....a learned behavior. My husband was always negative also. I was such a miserable person when I finally left him.....it was the best thing I ever did was walk out of there even after inveting 33 years of my life...it wasn't worth hurting myself farther. I am now the same peaceful person that I was before I ever got married so long ago. I had lost who I was....now I have the real me back & am much happier. When we are argumentative....it is a huge negative point in a relationship even if it doesn't seem to start off as such a big thing....it grows & drives a huge wedge between people.....so think about it & SHUT UP when you hear yourself say something like that.....you can talk good about not wanting to be that way, but actions speak louder than words....the action of keeping your mouth shut instead of saying something argumentative will speak so much louder than talling people you want to be non-argumentative.

Just giving you a real life example of a marriage that was ruined by that kind of action. I wasn't a bitter person before I got married, but I sure came out of it that way....lucky it went away as soon as I got away from my husband.....but it sneeks in sometimes when I least expect it.