We all need physical and emotional boundaries; every time he touches you in a way you don't like (and have TOLD him that) he is VIOLATING your boundary. He is disrespecting you.

All of your feelings are normal and should be respected.

My sister's husband would begin sexual stuff early in the morning when my sister was in a hurry to get to work. SHe told her husband she didn't like that and it made her feel like when she was molested as a child. He continued to do it.

She divorced him....because what he was saying was he didn't care how it made her feel. A control thing. There needs to be consequences to his behavior. If he continues to do it, go and stay overnight with a friend and explain why. What if you decided you liked shooting a BB gun at his head? Would he think that was okay? Of course not....but that is (metaphorically) what he is doing to you.i