Onomonapetia,
It can be hard finding a good fit and I too have had my share of good and bad matches. I am fortunate at the moment.
I asked the same things Sugahorse did in looking for a pdoc, as well as:
How comfortable were they in working with a T and specific T's b/c I didn't want to have to explain everything 2x. So notes are sent back and forth btn the 2 of them, they work well together. He also sends med updates to all my other docs. I appreciate them all working together.
I also asked about dosage adjustments and if it is a required visit or could be done with a phone conference.
I do ask their belief if visits were just for med checks or if they want to know what was going on as well, b/c I don't believe they can fully make decisions all the time just based on response to meds and symptoms. The first approach has not gone well for me in the past.
I never know though until meeting with them and initial consults are expensive, especially w/o insurance. It's nice many questions can be sent ahead of time so neither person's time is wasted but sometimes you have to have an initial consult.
If not comfortable with current doc, it may be just a matter of having a conversation with them about what's on your mind or possibly exploring another physician. I wish you the best in your decision.

-Fresia