lynn, I think this is something that, a long time ago, I discovered myself tending to do: adding to what someone said, things that other people may have said. Not making careful distinctions between what one person says and another says. I think our minds tend to do this naturally, in an attempt to compare situations and find out how this one is like another one. But it has its drawbacks, too. So making distinctions is something that I try to do, and I am painfully aware of how people will think I said something when I tried to say something else.