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Originally Posted by The Bakery
that sounds liek agood idea, I duno if I can afford it however...
He said hes with me cause he loves me but hes running low on that and doesn't think it's worth his time to keep trying and I'm on my last try... I dont even know what im doing wrong D; I've been faithful I listen and try any and everything he wants to do...
Im so self sacrificing but apparently im doin it wrong D;
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This sounds abusive to me. He blames you because he himself feels miserable? He blames you for his misery? Does he expect you to read his mind and then magically fulfill his every wish?
You can't read his mind and you should not be expected to.
You've used the word "submissive", are you in a D/s relationship, he supposedly being dominant? If so, that doesn't excuse his behavior and poor treatment of you.
A D/s relationship needs to work well for both parties. He says it isn't working for him and he is treating you badly. Takes two to tango, this is his responsibility too.
Even if (and maybe especially) you identify as a submissive you get to have healthy boundaries. You get to have a healthy self esteem and be free of mental and emotional abuse.
Maybe he is enjoying how he is treating you. That is yucky. You aren't enjoying this, this isn't working for you, I hope you listen to your instincts and refuse to allow him to put you down any further.
Abuse is abuse. Couples playing around with power dynamics need to be especially mindful of this fact.