Hey Chipper,

Don't ever feel guilty for making a life choice that has so much importance connected to it. This is your body and your committment you are talking about and only you have the right to decide what is right for you.

At the end of most relationships people will go over it again and again to establish that they have done the right thing. I think you did do the right thing because it is a matter of what you personally felt. If you think that intimacy is a chore though, I honestly think that needs listening to. Initimacy is an exchange between people who love each other and if you genuinely love someone, it is a wonderful thing to share.

So from what you have written I honestly think that you've done the right thing and should feel ok with it. But the issues of being self conscious when you are out should be discussed when you get a therapist, as should the idea that intimacy if you can't get passed the chore idea of it,

Loving thoughts,

Rhia