I'd advise you to really think if you consider a 12 month relationship to be a serious one. Discussing marriage for months is frightening! It is something that should be talked about for a number of years before you take that step. And if things are not rosey now don't think for a moment that they will change just because you get married.

You have a lot of issues to deal with and I don't think you are emotionally stable enough to take on a marriage when you can't handle a relationship of 12 months. Marriage is supposed to be a life time committment but if you aren't secure enough to cope with the relationship now, please understand clearly that marriage isn't going to magically heal all of the issues and problems and it doesn't mean that the relationship will be better than it is now. There are more pressures in marriage and I honestly urge you to think before you leap into something that isn't a sure bet no matter what you think,

Loving thoughts,

Rhia