Dearest Belle,

What a beautiful name by the way...I so understand why this is upsetting you and how it gets unto your head and it won't get out. I haven't read every post because there are so many, but I'm certain that you have been given a ton of support and lots of love.

My ex husband did this he brought his secretary into our home our bed while I was in hospital with a life threatening illness (I actually died twice while there), and he thought he was so bloody clever. He also did the same with a girl we took in off the street because she had no where else to go. He was a police officer who used to laughg at me and say "do and say what you like, I'll come out of this smelling like a rose". He was a liar and a cheat so I really do know how this feels.

You are so beautiful Belle, truly you are and I know that there would be many men out there lucky and happy to be with you.

I avoided this thread because I had a sense that it would bring something up for me which was hard to deal with. It wasn't until I said to myself "Suck it up!" that I had the courage to just do it.

It did bring that stuff up, but no worse than it always does. I'm in a wonderful relationship now with a beautiful man who is so loving and supportive. If I hadn't left that marriage I would not be with this man so I am so very lucky and feel very blessed.

I really hope that things are settling for you, and that you look forward to a happiness that has you being treated as you should be, with love and with respect,

Loving thoughts,

Rhian