I think you are not in the United States? I don't understand about his parents and brothers being more important to him than you are. They should not be in your relationship at all. I don't think you are very important to him if he is not pursuing you and trying to please you more than he is trying to please and keep peace with his family. He does not sounds like a good choice to you because, though he might change (doesn't look likely yet) his family will not and they are important to him.