I have been divorced for many years, I'm in my late 40's. I have met several men since my divorce and most have been dishonest, cheated, etc. I have finally met a very nice man, to say the least. Here is my dilemma. (I'm sorry it is so lengthy)

My boyfriend and I met almost 3 months ago, we see one another just about every day, and on those rare occasions when we don't get to see one another, he calls often or texts. We met and immediately hit it off and decided to see only one another. He told me he had been married for 16 yrs, which is completely over, and divorced for almost 7 years. In that time he met someone else, they were together for 6 years., lived together most of that time and got engaged. She died of leukemia. When my boyfriend and I met, he told me all about his fiancé. He said she died a year ago, I truly believe he didn't want to lay everything on me a once, because he truly isn't the kind of person to lie. In the time I have known him, he hasn't lied to me, I think he is cautious in how he approaches telling me things. After a month and a half of dating, a monogamous relationship, and as I said seeing one another daily, he finally told me she died only 4 months before we met. I felt my heart sink, I felt he couldn't be ready to move forward after such a short time. We discussed it and he said when she was diagnosed she wasn't given a good prognosis for survival, and he therefore began to "grieve" and face reality at that point. He truly did love her.

Anyway, when I go to his home, which I do every weekend, he is at my place most of the week because of work schedules. Anyway, he still has her pics everywhere, cards he gave her are hanging, pics of them together are on tables. Her vanity is still in the bedroom with her things on it. He has a 7 year old, who he sees once a week, but was an infant when he was with his fiancé, and so his daughter grew with his fiancé, though they saw one another only once a week. My boyfriend and I are not able to see one another on Sundays because he has his daughter. Most people, other than some of his friends, do not know about me. Because there is a chance of running into his family or his fiancé family, there are places we cannot go, he is not ready for me to meet them or for them to know about me. He is not ready for me to meet his daughter. I have not said anything about any of his decisions, because I am trying to be very respectful of him and his choices about our relationship. There are times it does hurt though, his friends really like me and are happy he has met someone, they say we are good together. There are times we are invited to their home for a BBQ or something, but if it's on a Sunday, he says to them, well Calie cannot go, but my daughter and I will be there. His friends think he is going somewhat overboard with this, but again respect his choices. He is still very much a part of his fiances family and always will be. He talks of them all often and still sees them. When the holidays come and as new ones approach, we are not able to be together. Because I do not believe he is not over the grieving process is why I am being so patient, that and the fact he really is a wonderful man. My friends and a counselor however, feel I am not having any of my needs met. They feel because we are in a fully committed relationship, it may be time to have a talk about the pics and his daughter. I am afraid to have this talk with him, I am trying to be respectful and allow him to go through the grieving process in his way, though he feels he has gone through the grieving. I am looking for any suggestions how to handle the situation. I am willing to remain patient, but when might be the proper time to talk about these issues? I am not wanting to sound selfish, but as I said there are times it hurts or I feel sad because we are not able to share many things, or the pics we have taken together are hidden away so no one in his family will see them. What advice would you give me? I will remain patient. Thank you for your help