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Jun 27, 2010, 03:49 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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I'm very sorry..... But you do NOT have a sex problem. 
You have an ABUSE problem.
NO means NO!!
I am guessing your husband doesn't believe he has a problem, right?
You need to seek some counseling for just you. Not because you are mental, because you're not...he is. You need someone who can help you learn to be able to see this and help you figure out why you feel you don't deserve the self respect you do deserve.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that I think you were probably abused as a child and were programmed to let men take advantage of you.
You need help building your self esteem up and getting to a place where you can say "NO MORE" and demand a safe and healthy relationship. That is not currently what you have. You also need somebody who can help you document his behaviors.
His behaviors are that of the predatory type. Do you really want to be his prey?
Please, get into some counseling, whether he will go or not. If you can't afford it, contact a Domestic Violence hotline and they can help you find some resources to start getting you the help you need and deserve. You definitely do not deserve to be treated the way he is treating you.
These are HIS issues. Don't let him make them yours. 
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1−800−799−SAFE(7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224.
http://www.ndvh.org/
BTW, the above DV folks are based in Texas, so they should have some great resources for you. 
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Last edited by Elysium; Jun 27, 2010 at 04:09 PM.
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