i remember you are dealing with cultural issues in your relationship with this guy and his family, but a 9 pm curfew at 23 years old? come on. you are doing nothing wrong. this is his issue with allowing his family to control his life. the only thing you can do is decide if you are willing to go along with it or not. i think you deserve better and i am mad on your behalf. i think you need to expect to be treated better than this and not settle for this. sorry for being so blunt.