Thank you all for the great, informative responses.

Because this is not the first time I have put her out, and the stealing has been going on for a very long time, and the fact that the information you provided me, David, about the family dynamic and expressed emotion is so so relevant here, letting her back is not an option, even with the rules. We have been round and round about rules and conditions, and now, my boundary is very clear: she must get treatment and be on tract for at least 6 months with it before I would even consider letting her back.

Ironically, or maybe not, she does not behave in these ways in other people's homes. Maybe their rules are different, so there is no confrontation there, I don't know.

She has a psych appt on July 29 with another doctor, not the one who diagnosed her. She is working with a social service agency in obtaining help, but like always, she has to want it bad enough...no one can want it for her.

I'm not surprised that the condition will worsen without attention and treatment...after all, isn't that the way all illnesses work? Just because you ignore it, doesn't mean it goes away....sigh