Peaches I can relate to what you have posted on so many levels.

These statements especially jumped out at me:

"with my t, it's just all the same as it's ever been for me since i was a child with my parents. I'm "too much," my emotions are "too much," my needs are "too much."

"I just feel "yuck." I'm afraid my t just isn't able to care about me as much as i want her to. I'm afraid that by letting myself think that finally, this time, after all my disappointments and rejections in relationships, that THIS TIME, things are different. . .somebody really cares deeply for me as a person. . ."

It is a possibility that she was really busy and frazzled hence sending you that somewhat curt reply. I sometimes do this when I'm feeling frazzled and I regret it later

For what it's worth when it comes to email things can get lost in translation (meaning or emotion). Having said that there are also things I read on PC that come across with lots of emotion/meaning and other times .

Many hugs and I hope you can find some resolution to this soon.

Wishing you peace.