Peaches, you are running off with this in your mind WITHOUT INVOLVING THE OTHER PERSON INVOLVED IN THE CONVERSATION - YOUR THERAPIST. Remember, you can't work something out with someone else in your head! Stop! If you want to work this out you must include the other person in the conversation or you are just going to go off in your head.

And remember this is about more than just this incident. This also includes all your past with your parents and all of those stuffed feelings that you had while growing up when your mother was in her own world and wasn't giving you the care that you needed and deserved.