Peaches, perhaps you need to find another T? I dunno, who knows but you and T, I can only relate your experience to my therapy and in my therapy experience I know theres real caring and understanding there, it is wrong of me to tell you that you are wrong and your therapist is right, perhaps shes got to much baggage and you could find another that is able to support you. I can see your hurting, and I'm sorry your T doesn't seem to be able to help you with that.