Yeah, I'm the same way. There are times when I will actually be telling myself, "Be here. Listen to what she's saying. This is important." But in my head I'm dissecting her words down to what I believe to be their core, but which in fact is really just me hunting for any kind of rejection that might possibly be there. When I look back I can tell myself that my thinking is way off base, but in the moment, it's really hard.

I need help in remembering the "grayness" too.