Bipolar very often makes working absolutely impossible and out of the question. Sounds like some honest talking is needed, as well as some understanding. I know it's frustrating. Bipolar comes with a lot of confusion, fear, anxiety, and also the obvious inability to control one's moods. I also was once a successful professional (and quite college educated). Now I'm a bipolar nobody who does nothing except try to stay alive. And that's literally all I can do. The dysfunction here is that no one is talking. Or being honest. So talk. And be honest.

Sorry to be so blunt but the working/bipolar things hits way close to home.

And of course he seems not to care about anything. That's depression. Part of bipolar. Maybe you and your daughter should speak to someone regarding bipolar so you can better understand it? It's a very very very very very serious illness. The pressure you put on him probably seems immense to him, even if it is reasonable.

Being pissed is perhaps natural but it will never help. He needs helps, not resentment. Not pity--help.

Also, he's a grown man. Your marriage has bigger issues than bipolar if you are snooping in his phone records. God, I'm being a *****. I'm sorry. I truly do not mean to, but these are the facts and I'm also bipolar and in a bad all mixed up state of mind, so I don't have much gentleness in me today.

You all need to talk. Well, you and your husband. Not sure why your daughter has a say in your husband's job situation. But that's clearly your business and there's no explanation so what do I know?