Steven,

You already are there for her. You're here looking for answers on how you can be more supportive and helpful and that reflects a good guy. I cannot tell you what is going to work for your wonderful fiance, but I can tell you what I needed when I suffered from PTSD. The phrase, "Leave me alone but don't leave me" comes to mind. I needed space, a safe space that I could crawl into and pull it together. That space might be physical or it might have been emotional depending on my needs at the time but I definately needed space.

She may, as a result of your relationship, find a safe space in your arms though I wouldn't count on it and I wouldn't take it personal if she doesn't. If she does though, you might take a page from that old children's admonition to be 'seen but not heard' - unless she breaks the silence and engages you. She might break silence and not engage you though - emotional vomit I would call it, just listen and keep the space safe. I know I said that I was going to tell you what worked for me and I've switched from talking about myself to talking about her but I still mean 'me' - it's what I needed.

If she doesn't react that way - if she looks for solitude, respect that. Make it safe for her to go away and come back. The concern in peoples eyes when I returned made me not want to come back - I had to make them feel better, assuage their fears. You may be feeling concern but you're also feeling love and adoration; let her see and feel the latter rather than the former.

I hope that helps some. I know she is worth it but dealing with this is not easy and you deserve a hug and so...

(((spwhite24)))