Hey Rhian, I am glad I was able to help you through some tough times yot have gone through. That is the beauty of this place...we all support eachother well! The jerk is gone. As I was journaling about said jerk, he reminded me of someone else in my life...that would be my mother! You see, mom is a NARCISSIST! You might want to google that word because that seems to be the bottom line in this situation. The woman who raised me and the man who is now a former friend are both textbook cases of of this personality disorder. I would definately google narcissist. Least I do not believe anything he said to me anymore and I feel validated now. Thanks for readinhg, NF