[quote=purple_fins;1416077]this must be very difficult for you ugh.......

I so wish you could have a "do over" and would have written all those lovely things down and given it to her face-2-face to read with you sitting right there..... then you would have had her undivided attention. I would bet my life on it that she would have said some very gratifying comments to you.
Some people, I believe, just aren't very good at email. the absence of the physical can seem to cause some to react with distance..... for some reason
I can sure understand your feeling dissed.
but I also understand your T. being in business mode away from the session..... especially with a sister in the hospital... she must have been so worried for her sister.
I wish though your T. would have said in her phone message how she appreciated your sentiments.... but you know what...... I don't think there is a person alive that is perfect... every single person will not meet our expectations all the time..... I imagine now you are thinking-- "but she knows me and she is a professional therapist-- she should have known what I needed"....... perhaps.... but again.... not a human alive is perfect. dissappointments will be part of it.... it's how we overcome/cope with those dissappointments that is the key.

Hi Purplefins,

Thanks for the understanding, and also for reminding me that nobody is perfect. Maybe sometimes i expect my t to always do and say the right thing because I always see her at her best. T's don't generally show anger or act selfish or display flaws like we are used to seeing with others we come in contact with. They seem so kind and helpful and interested, smart, calm, etc. Maybe because she seems almost perfect most of the time because i don't see her faults and flaws, then i start unconsciously expecting her to always say and do the right thing. i think that the way the t-patient relationship is set up lends itself to that illusion: that the t is somehow better than average, smarter, more capable. So when t does something that hurts me, a part of me is shocked and hurt, and thinks, "I can't believe you did that! You should have know that would be hurtful." I know it's illogical, but does anybody understand where i'm coming from on this?