Donna,

After a year of searching for a job (which in Michigan isn't easy), my husband finally got an offer. He had been depressed because he wasn't working so I thought this would be encouraging for him. After his recent I guess, breakdown or episode, he called them back and told them he didn't want the job and he hadn't even started yet! I understand work may not be possible especially as he gets worse so I've been making plans to be the bread winner so I can take care of him but unfortunately he disappeared 2 weeks ago. I still plan on doing what I can to help him if he comes back...it's my duty as a wife and I'm getting a lot of flack for saying that but I'm old fashioned when it comes to marriage. I married for better or worse and in sickness and health and my helping my husband through his Bipolar is what I live for. I've been told to just let him go and move on with my life since he can't contribute like he's supposed to. I think that's crap. I guess my point is, is your husband worth this frustration you are going through? If he is then you have to do whatever you can to sustain your marriage and support him but you have to do some soul searching and change yourself too.