Sounds like both of your exes did not appreciate you fully or respect your wishes fully either. It may sound strange now but I think you will see that they were not worth it if they did not treat you as you wish and deserve. They also were just telling you that about men so you would feel bad and give in probably. I'm so glad you stood your ground. I am older than you even and am not married. You are not a failure at all. You think about what you are doing and are quite mature. Those qualities will attract the right guy. I, too, am waiting to meet the right guy and commitment before sex. I was not always that way but I feel I am better off the way I am now. Good going! I think you are doing things the right way!

<font color=purple>Peace to you. CQ</font color=purple>

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