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Originally Posted by seventyeight
hi peaches, i hope you're doing ok. i had two thoughts:
1) perhaps she didn't want to say anything, because whatever it was - would have fallen short. i know you wanted to hear *some*thing, but in this case (in my opinion) the nothing was better than something. imagine if she (like you wanted her to) did say "thanks for sharing that" or "i'm glad you feel that way." i know if it was me, i'd feel like absolute crap if that's the response i got. i'd be like: THAT'S IT?! and i think this is what may have been going on with her. like she didn't know what to say, so she didn't ruin it by saying something small and somewhat meaningless. instead, she called (and didn't email back, which to me is also an indication of her not wanting to leave a permant mark) and reacted in the most honest way possible. and from what i can tell, she really DID want to wait until she saw you to talk about everything.
2) i'm probably not going to convince you that she cares for you, but perhaps this will:
this is beautiful! i know for one, most therapist do not come close to their clients, much less touch them. she did, and this was the way she chose to express herself to you. i think she most certainly cares about you, and i'd encourage you to re-read how the session went as a reminder of the reality of the situtation, and not what you've built it up in your mind to be.
i hope i'm not being too harsh.. my words come from a caring place.
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Hi Seventyeight,
That part you quoted -- it felt caring to me when it happened. I wonder if she really wanted to do it though, or if it felt like she had to do damage repair because she knew i was upset. I dunno. Maybe i'm just being too hard on her all the way around. Maybe i don't realize how good I have it in t.
The thing is. . .i just want her to show me she cares because she wants to do it, not because i get mad and then she feels she "has" to appease me.