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Originally Posted by seventyeight
hi peaches, i hope you're doing ok. i had two thoughts:
1) perhaps she didn't want to say anything, because whatever it was - would have fallen short. i know you wanted to hear *some*thing, but in this case (in my opinion) the nothing was better than something. imagine if she (like you wanted her to) did say "thanks for sharing that" or "i'm glad you feel that way." i know if it was me, i'd feel like absolute crap if that's the response i got. i'd be like: THAT'S IT?! and i think this is what may have been going on with her. like she didn't know what to say, so she didn't ruin it by saying something small and somewhat meaningless. instead, she called (and didn't email back, which to me is also an indication of her not wanting to leave a permant mark) and reacted in the most honest way possible. and from what i can tell, she really DID want to wait until she saw you to talk about everything.
2) i'm probably not going to convince you that she cares for you, but perhaps this will:
this is beautiful! i know for one, most therapist do not come close to their clients, much less touch them. she did, and this was the way she chose to express herself to you. i think she most certainly cares about you, and i'd encourage you to re-read how the session went as a reminder of the reality of the situtation, and not what you've built it up in your mind to be.
i hope i'm not being too harsh.. my words come from a caring place.
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PS - Seventyeight, I think deep down, i just can't believe that she or anybody would "want" to be close with me, that they could care about me deep down in their heart, that i could be meaningful to anyone. even though my t has said and done nice things, i can't get rid of the feeling that it's not real, that she's just doing it because it's her job to help me feel good, and that i really don't have any significance to her at all. So when she slips and says or does something to hurt my feelings, I wonder if that's her true feelings toward me slipping out and showing. Then if i get hurt or upset, she goes back to seeming like she cares. . .until the next time something happens that makes me feel (once again) that i mean nothing. it's so confusing to me. i want so much to believe her caring is for real, but i can't seem to settle into the idea, can't seem to let myself feel good about it.