I'm sorry you're feeling blue.

I just broke up with my boyfriend of a year just three weeks ago. I had a 'sort of' boyfriend in high school, but no one -- especially us -- acknowledged that we were going out together or were boyfriend/girlfriend because we were too shy. I had one boyfriend in college. That relationship lasted from second semester freshman year through graduation when he moved to Japan and I moved to Illinois.

My second real boyfriend became my husband. We split 4 years ago after 12 years of marriage. That's it other than this boyfriend of a year.

My own thoughts are that relationships are a heck of a lot of work, and for me they can be harmful because I can be too accommodating and end up losing my self.

If you are looking for someone of a like mind, maybe look within your church or diocese. I know women who waited to have sex until after they were married. I believe there are men out there with values similar to yours. Don't give up!

"Life and death, loss and possession are one: There falls no shadow where there shines no sun."
- Shakespeare