AK,

You read my mind from yesterday. I just wanted to say "If hes so wonderful why are you sharing all of his bad points with us when you won't listen to what we say anyway?!

I ended up saying the usual "poor you" which is what the person wanted to hear any way so that she could print it off and wave it in front of his face saying "look they all agree with me"

Cynical as that seems it is the truth...I decided after that, that I would be truthful but as positive as I could be or not respond at all if I felt any frustration with the person so as not to cause them pain, and not to cause me the frustration of being deleted because somone wanted to get even with me because they don't understand what I was saying or didn't agree with them...

Support can be a minefield, as I have found out, say one wrong word and you are judged...And to think my soon to be completed Ph.D is Holistic Relationship & Family Counselling & Therapy aswell as the impact on vulnerable personalities of certain types of unrealistic counselling....

I wonder after being a trained RN, completing my BA my MA, and seeing & experiencing what I have and now being 3/4 through my Ph.D. what perecentage of people would truly listen to any counselling, cog therapy or psychotherapy, because it challenges people to think and act in a way that opposes their ingrained thinking & actions....

Rhia