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On the day he was supposed to mail the letter he also had an appt. with a new therapist (community since we couldn't afford his usual one anymore). When he came back he was acting weird, distant, and I knew something wasn't right with him. We spent the evening together, holding hands, it was a good night then I asked him if he was going to put up the new shower curtain like he said he would. So he's putting it up and I said while he took the old one down I would clean the tub, he said "you're not going to clean it while I'm standing in it right?" and I asked why he would say something stupid like that, of course I wasn't going to. I didn't mean it in an malicious way but it set him off and he said I was verbally abusing him and that he wasn't stupid. I thought I would just walk away and let him vent, I went to lay down on the bed and when he was done he came in and laid his head down on my chest and said he was sorry and he loved me. I apologized and said I wasn't calling him stupid it was just an odd remark to make then I said I was worried about him because he was acting weird all day. Next thing I know he's packing a suitcase saying he hates my guts and wants to leave. He packed his Xbox, games, computer...no clothes, no medication (he's on heart meds for a heart attack he had in Feb '10 and insulin too). He said he was done with this marriage and left. This has never happened before!
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Hey Lisa,
This was what caught my eye; that he seemed not there, that he was someone else, and that he changed so quickly, from the moment he put his head on your chest, and that he responded in such a juvenile way by packing his puter games only. His response and the fact even that he did not look like your husband indicates a major displacement of his "self".
But please only be guided by qualified experts and work with them for your husbands health,
I really wish you well, but we'll be here to support you no matter what,
Rhian