Hey AK,

Thanks for your post; in fact what you have done is support me by your response and I really appreciate that.

You see (and I'm sure you're aware of this), as co-posters we are in a relationship and though I'm qualified to a degree, doesn't mean I don't have my own issues and that I don't need support when I put my points across.

The situation I involved myself in yesterday I did so because no one else seemed to want to. I guess people were trying to absorb what they had read, before they commented...thats understandable because the author was literally in 2 minds.

Please dear Sabby don't take this the wrong way, but the "I'm really sorry this has happened to you/you feel thi way" etc seems to me to be a platitude and even tough I've tried to use it and others I just can't feel that those words are supportive because they seem so banal.

It's my natural inclination to want to help and to want to explain things; I'm not always right and I don't always succeed I am well aware of that but we are here to help each other and I think that is where we all come from, the compassionate desire to help,

Rhian