Hi marjn. I just notice this thread so thought I would chime in to encourage you to give it some time. I hope things went well with your mom and sister coming over to help you out getting organized.

You mentioned hiring a designer to help you out. A thought might be to check out a design school and see if you can hire a student to get a lower rate.

In my native culture we always smudge (clean with the smoke from herbal medicines.... sage, cedar, sweetgrass etc) a new home. With an eagle feather we go from room to room waving the smoke through the house.

I think you mentioned something similar from your culture. Perhaps that might help you. We do it to cast out negative energy and invite positive energy in. We invite the ancestors to come and bless our new home and to protect us while we are there.

Even something as simple as burning some lavendar or other favourite scent might give you a sense of calm and belonging while you adjust.