Thank you all for your heartfelt words. And yes Lynn, you did make me laugh! I was close to this neice while she was growing up. She was pretty down to earth until important names and institutions came up. First it was Harvard law school then she won both cases in front of The Supreme Court then Oprah's magazine did an interview with her. Looking closer at the facebook stuff I noticed one of my brothers and one of my sisters were also missing from her fb friends so in an odd way, I do not feel as bad. Since I was able to send her a private message to wish them well, I am just going to let go and see what happens. I will let you know if anything happens.