Hmmmm.

A long time ago I was a member of an e-mail list for "survivors", and at one point a person attacked me verbally out of the blue, saying she knew me and that I was one of her abusers. I had no idea who she was.

I knew that people who have been abused are likely to be highly sensitive and trigger easily, and in an attempt to keep themselves safe can attack other people whom they perceive as being dangerous. But sometimes we can make mistakes, too. And even though I thought I understood where she was "coming from", it still hurt.