Not sure what happened here. My reply did not post. Probably user error. HAHA
Well let me say I appreciate the input. I want to say thanks two those who sent me private messages as well. Sadly in being new to this web site I did not save them and so lost the messages. If it is possible could you send them again as you had some real insight I wanted to consider further. Thanks.
On another forum on the internet the idea was shared with me that while being loving and supportive I need to be careful not to become her fixer or savior. Can any of you relate to this idea and explain more detail on it?

Also I bought a book entitled "Healing from the Trauma of Abuse- a womans workbook" It seems from my prospective to be a very useful self help book in rebuilding self esteem and rebuilding. Have any of you seen this book or any others on rebuiling and healing aspects?
thanks again