Hi everybody. I really need your advice.
I give you the recipe, please tell how it "tastes" :
Guy is hitting on me. Seems the shy sort. I see pictures of his daughter in his office. Next time (slow guy) he says he has shared custody (instead of saying he is divorced). When I suggest to have a drink he seems thrilled, but changes his mind the next week and says that he has a girlfriend. Oops? Nobody present reacts in any way. I believe it and say bye bye.
4 weeks later, I meet him again, he says he is single and that he has nobody to take care of his daughter the next day. He says he wants to stay single, that he has been been single for 6 years. He just went on vacation with his daughter. Ok??? After that he is still hitting on me but alwways avoiding a drink, a restaurant etc.. MMMh weird. But he tells he what he is doing, where he is going in his free time (exact locations, days etc...). A bit suicidal if he has a girlfriend I think, but hey.
I try the direct approach : what do you want ? Result : Panic!!! Since he believes I am having an affair with his best friend, I explain that I am not interested in men with girlfriends. He takes the hint, and says : "Really ? I have a girlfriend !" Okkk
Where is this conversation going?? After that I just try to avoid him, but he keeps coming back, still giving me his detailed schedule. He even told me he likes women to make the first step (yea, right).
Again I put a lot of distance between us. Now after I had an argument with his best friend, he almost jumped on me and.....nothing. I tried to squeeze some info out of his secretary (not a good idea. She just hates me) who said that he had a girlfriend. When I said I was surprised nobody ever mentions her, that he doesn't go on vacation with her, that he doesn't even have a picture of her in his office, she says : she just takes what he gives her. She has no choice. Weird.
I decided to talk to him. I said that he should take care of his girlfriend instead of talking to me. He thought I was making a joke. He sais he was all alone that evening, but maybe he should see his girlfriend ??? He then gave me again his exact schedule of the WE. I had the feeling he was trying to make me jealous.
1) I have never seen him with another girl.
2) Nobody mentions her in a normal conversation
3) He mentions her when it's convenient (like to put me at a distance)
On the other hand :
1) Even though she hates me, why would the secretary lie ?
2) Maybe she is just a gap filler when he is really bored ? (but he seemed really bored last summer)
This is crazy. During his lunch break he takes care of his father, most of the time of his daughter, and then the buddies.
I am at my wit's ends. I can't get a reliable source of information ! It drives me crazy and I don't know if it is worth insisting with this guy or not. He has great qualities but a girlfriend would be a no, no. What should I do ? What course of action ? It is so hard to have a real conversation with him. He is dreading them like a naughty child a punishment. Help !!
