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Originally Posted by EJNT
I have been rejected in the past, and it's never bothered me, because I had no true interest in relationships, but now... it felt like I was ready. I guess I just can't come to terms with the fact that others may not be ready, just because I want them to be! It's stupidity, but it's how my mind seems to be reacting. Like one side of me can apply reason, logic and common sense, but the other is blind to it. It's like I am fighting with myself  |
Letting go of something that is tied to a strong emotion is not as easy as letting go of something that is not tied to anything. What strong emotion do you have tied to this person? The fact that you feel closer to being ready for companionship and commitment? The thing about one-sided emotions is that they are NOT tied to that other person, however it is like an illusion because it *feels* as though it is tied to them specifically. What is great about one-sided emotions is that you can redirect it to being connected to something for real. No illusion of feeling, no illusion of a connection, but a real one. A dog, for example, if treated and trained well, will always maintain a reciprocated connection with it's owner. Redirect the emotions you feel toward those girls to something that is real, reciprocated, and healthy through and through.
Best wishes.