sanity seeker....
She is responsible for how she responds. Hang on to those who are good for you and don't waste time and effort with those that are bad. When you are feeling bad about it, think how much your hubby loves you, that is more important than some skanky b#$%*h's opinion. Some people have an amazing ability to say or do exactly the wrong thing (mainly coz they are completely selfcentred)...

I am sure that with time everything will be ok.