Although we have tried having sex quite a few times, my boyfriend can't get an erection. I know how much it bothers him and I'm trying to be as supportive as I can but I'm not sure what to do now. The only thing that seems to work (albeit marginally) for him is giving him oral sex, which I personally hate doing. I don't like doing it and I don't like having it done to me. I should have just said no from the outset but I think I was afraid I was the reason it wasn't working. Although he insists it's not me, and he's going to see a doctor this week, sex with him makes me feel insecure and generally just ... bad. I'm very attracted to him and I want to have sex, but the whole thing has just become so stressful and disappointing for both of us. I feel awful because it's got to be just as bad (if not worse!) for him, and I know that he feels terrible about this too. I've started dreading sex because he's come to expect oral sex, and I'm not sure how to tell him how much I hate it when it's the only thing that works for him, and when he's been careful to satisfy me in other ways. I know how much he likes me to go down on him but the whole thing disgusts me and I find it's a huge turn off, especially when it's not even working. I have no idea what to do about any of this now. I could really use some advice!